Life Lab: Living Like a Scientist — Testing, Failing, Learning
Life is one big experiment. The sooner I realized that, the more control I gained over shaping it.
The Shift: Seeing Life as an Experiment
This mindset first took root when I started living on my own. It was a simple but powerful realization: if the trash was full, no one was going to take it out but me.
At face value, it was just a chore, but underneath, it represented something bigger—if I wanted something in my life to change, I had to be the one to act. No one was going to step in and magically make things better.
That moment flipped a switch in my mind. I stopped waiting and started testing. What happens if I change this habit? What if I adjust my schedule? What if I try something completely new? My life became a series of experiments—some successful, some not—but each one gave me data to improve.
The Defining Moment: Landing a Cybersecurity Sales Job with Zero Experience
One of the biggest experiments I ran was getting a job as a Sales Development Representative in cybersecurity—with zero experience and zero connections. But I made it happen.
The biggest advantage I had? Time.
I poured as much time as possible into learning, researching, and—most importantly—seeking out people who had already done what I was trying to accomplish. I treated my career like a science project, constantly testing new tactics and refining my approach.
That’s when I noticed a pattern—the better my personal life became, the better my career followed.
The Parallel Between Career and Life
As I progressed, I realized that success in one area of life fuels success in others. The more I optimized my personal life—through healthy habits, fitness, mindfulness, and intentional routines—the better my career results became.
It became clear that life and work weren’t separate; they were parallel experiments.
I started applying the same approach to both:
Building habits and routines – Testing what works and what doesn’t
Prioritizing health, fitness, and mindfulness – A strong body and mind fuel everything else
Seeking out people who had done it before – Learning from those ahead of me
Staying open to new strategies and perspectives – Flexibility over rigidity
This realization shaped how I navigated every challenge. Instead of getting stuck in frustration, I would test a solution, observe the results, and iterate.
The Power of Flexibility: No Two Years Are the Same
If I’ve learned anything, it’s that no two years of my life have ever been the same. Because of that, I had to develop a flexible system for growth—one that adapted to life’s changes instead of relying on rigid routines.
At first, I tried different structured frameworks, but none were adaptable enough. Eventually, I landed on a more intuitive approach: using everything I’ve learned and doing my best with the energy I have each day.
🔹 If I have 100% to give, I give it.
🔹 If I only have 60%, I make sure I give that full 60%.
That shift was freeing. It removed the pressure of perfection and replaced it with consistency and self-trust.
What You Can Expect from Life Lab
This blog is where I’ll document my ongoing experiments—big and small—in multiple areas of my life. Just like a scientist gathers data, tests hypotheses, and refines results, I’ll be doing the same across different aspects of my world, including:
🔹 Motherhood – Figuring out how to balance life with young kids while still growing as a person
🔹 Marriage – Strengthening my relationship while juggling all of life’s responsibilities
🔹 Entrepreneurship – Building a business and embracing the uncertainty of being my own boss
🔹 Health & Nutrition – Testing different approaches to eating healthier in a way that’s sustainable
🔹 Fitness & Physical Growth – Improving my physical shape while keeping a long-term, flexible mindset
🔹 Home Renovation – Working on a 200-year-old house and turning it into a home
🔹 Career Growth – Expanding my career in cybersecurity while setting myself up for something bigger in the future
Some experiments will be successful, others might completely flop—but that’s the point. I’ll be sharing what I learn, what works, and what doesn’t, so you can take what’s useful and apply it to your own life.
How You Can Apply This Mindset
The key to applying this mindset is realizing you’re not stuck in a box. We have far more control over our lives than we think. The sooner you shift your mentality to believe that, the greater the likelihood of making real change.
Want to try an experiment today? Identify one thing in your life that would improve if changed, and then focus on just the first step. That’s it. No overwhelming plans, no drastic overhauls—just the next step forward.
This requires self-awareness. The ability to recognize what’s holding you back comes from paying attention—noticing where you feel stuck, reflecting on your habits, and acknowledging the things you keep avoiding.
Some ways to practice this:
🔹 Ask yourself: Where am I feeling the most resistance right now?
🔹 Pay attention to recurring frustrations—they often highlight the biggest opportunities for change.
🔹 Focus on what you can do, not what you can’t.
Final Thought: Life is a Continuous Experiment
Life isn’t about getting everything right on the first try. It’s about being willing to test, fail, and refine. Every day is a new experiment, and the more you embrace that, the more you grow.
